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52. Destroying self-esteem is an easy way to dominate others. Behind these trends that tend to level our world, there flourish powerful interests that take advantage of such low self-esteem, while attempting, through the media and networks, to create a new culture in the service of the elite. This plays into the opportunism of financial speculators and raiders, and the poor always end up the losers. Then too, ignoring the culture of their people has led to the inability of many political leaders to devise an effective development plan that could be freely accepted and sustained over time.
Think of the many top executives in recent years who, sometimes after long periods of considerable success, have crashed and burned. Or think of individuals you have known in less prominent positions, perhaps people spearheading significant change initiatives in their organizations, who have suddenly found themselves out of a job. Think about yourself: In exercising leadership, have you ever been removed or pushed aside?
If we use self-deception to rationalize our mistakes, the deception leaves us helpless to solve the problem. Seeing our responsibility gives us the freedom to act and the power to create real change in our life.
When you see clearly, you can then begin to look for little ways you can change your actions to line up with your deepest sense of what is right and the kind of character that you value. Here are some ways you can overcome self-deception:
You can learn to recognize the signs of self-deception in yourself, and you can learn to see yourself and others more clearly. Obviously, this is a big and complicated topic, and a really important one.
Baumeister (2010) describes self-deception as a kind of wishful thinking. In this state, we believe what we want to believe, bereft of rigorous justifications. Various biases serve as a vehicle for self-deception. 2b1af7f3a8